Enneagram Type 4: The Romantic · xo, enneagram

Fours have a rich experience with life and relish a wide range of emotions - from happy and bright ones, to heavy and dark ones. They long not just to be unique but to be seen for their uniqueness. They are creative, often artistic, and usually expressive of their wide range of feelings. They struggle with feeling that the grass is always greener on the other side...that, if they just keep searching, then they will find bliss, or perfection, or the place where they truly belong.

Our Type Four friends say:

“I'm a Four through and through! The desire to create beautiful spaces, the self-consciousness, the emotional side of it--allll the things. It's been so helpful to know this about myself!”

@ericatmidkiff

"My gut-punch in knowing I was a Four was that sense of longing that is basically part of my identity more than actually related to my circumstances. I am always yearning for things to be deeper, truer, realer, more meaningful. I’ve been comforted to learn that nothing is actually wrong, it’s just who I am. And also I’m challenged to be daily engaged with the real world and find the beauty in the moment rather than just longing for another time/place/life."

@alltribesapothecary

“I've always been super sensitive, and I've also always struggled with the feeling of never truly belonging in any group.”

@itskaitlinkline

“Something that struck a chord with me when reading The Road Back To You was about feeling melancholy. As Victor Hugo said: 'Melancholy is the happiness of being sad'. And damn... I always thought I was weird for feeling somewhat comfortable and enriched in emotions for dwelling in sadness. There’s something beautiful about it.”

@tiffanymaitrinh